Realizing Women Know Everything!

There’s an old saying that goes, “behind every great man is a great woman.” More often than not, this is generally the case. There are exceptions to be made when a good man marries a prick of a woman, or when a great woman shares nuptials with a lazy moron (man). However, whether by being told explicitly or by picking up on subtle actions, we have all been taught that the man is in charge of the household. In reality, a logical, unbiased analysis of this statement would prove this false.

The “job” of a woman is to take care of the house and kids, right? If this is true this means that the woman spends more time with the children with the father, which creates more attachment towards the mother. When we ask our dad if we can do something, the most common answer is “Go ask your mother”.

In our own household, where the man is said to be in charge, he defers authority to the mother and also conveys the message “Whatever you decide is good with me.

”  My question to this is how a man, the leader of the household can communicate so clearly with a woman about his own children, while not really saying any direct words to her, not do the same when it concerns matters of equal or greater importance? This blatant lack of communication occurs in all relationships, at one point or another. But often it happens most when dealing with women.

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We have passed down the idea among many generations that women must always defer to their spouses. Many times we find that if we listen to women, they generally know what is best because they are able to notice the smallest details. But as men we often shrug them off and become hell-bent on doing it ourselves and we often give up or make the situation worse, sometimes ending up right back at square one.

A perfect example of this lack of communicating can be found in the play Trifles. The play is about a woman named Mrs. Minnie Wright, who seems to commit the crime of murdering her husband. In the play, the town sheriff, Mr. Peters, his wife, the district attorney, a farmer, Mr. Hale, and the farmer’s wife return to the woman’s house to find a motive for the crime. It is this part of the play where we find the obvious division among the two genders. Shortly into the play we find out that Mrs. Peters and Mrs. Hale are there to gather things to take to Minnie at the jail. While they are doing this, the men were running through what happened to try and find a motive for the murder. This obviously should tell you that the women were not expected to help with the crimes. The men all but dismiss the women after a discussion in which they were said to be “used to worrying about trifles.” The men went upstairs to continue investigating while leaving the women to such “trifles.” As the story unfolds, the men couldn’t find a real motive for the murder.

However, the women found a series of clues that revealed the motive and how the murder was carried out. Throughout the course of the play, the women were able to have an open dialogue because the men effectively ignored them. The men would walk in occasionally on the ends of sentences and would make sly remarks, not getting the whole context of the discussion, missing out on clues. One occurrence, possibly the most important one, is when the women discovered Minnie’s “confession”. They discovered one of the quilts Minnie was working on. They noticed a pattern on it and Mrs. Hale made the remark, “I wonder if she was goin’ to quilt it or knot it.” At that exact moment the men came downstairs. Not catching any of the previous dialogue, Sheriff Peters mocked the comment, then the men continued their investigation outside.

If they had stayed and actually listened to more of the conversation, they would have found out exactly how the murder was committed. Upon further examination of the quilt, the two women noticed something extremely odd and familiar about a pattern on one part of the quilt. It had a knot in the thread that was revealed to be the same knot formation that was tied in rope around John Wright’s neck, which killed him. The women never said out loud that this what how the murder happened, but in the stage directions that followed, we find that the women shared a look of confirmation, and if you read between the lines in the dialogue following, you can see the women agreed on this.

As I analyzed this play, I saw a lot of things that still occur in the modern day. We as men often hear women talking about things that we don’t recognize as important, basically seeing them as trifles. This is where the stereotype of men being horrible listeners comes into play. It is not that men don’t listen, it is the fact that we don’t take the time to sit down and allow women to explain the importance of some of the seemingly unimportant things that they do. I have found that having female friends can sometimes be more beneficial than having male friends. Women gcan give insight and pick up on people’s personality traits, just by observing the way they perform the simplest tasks. All we have to do is listen.