Behind every child who believes in himself is a parent who believed in him first.
Respected chairperson, members of the jury, worthy opponents, and the lovely audience, a good day to all. I stand before you to speak against the motion Boarding schools are substitutes for parental responsibility.
Boarding schools —- where a normal family-based childhood is traded for the hot housing of entitlement!!!
Children always remember their first day of boarding school — they are on the steps — they are introduced to the principal— then theres the sudden realization that their parents are in the car and the wheels are turning — they run after the car — but —-their whole world seems to come to an end.
Privileged Abandonment, yes I use the word abandonment—- abandoning 7 year olds in a place strange to them, with no permission to let out their emotions —- .is not progressive its tragic.
Children on sudden abandonment can experience homesickness which can easily cause permanent psychological issues also known as the boarding school syndrome.
And this is where their EQ or emotional quotient starts to lag behind. Young kids need love and boarding schools cant replace a mothers kiss or a dads hug, no matter how good the facilities and the faculty are.
Do they have their parents to narrate all their small and big happenings throughout the day?
Do they have a patient ear to listen to their concerns and questions?
Another huge problem faced by children in boarding schools is bullying and peer pressure.
This is more pronounced due to the proximity of seniors and juniors especially during unsupervised time as for instance after lights out. The Scindia School suicide attempt case of 2014 is one such example where a kid was a victim of bullying. Moreover, the findings from an investigation across various boarding schools in Switzerland revealed that 64% of the boarders were alcoholics and at least 10% of them had tried drugs. Are these boarding schools then substitutes for parental responsibility?
In fact, most parents send their children to boarding schools as a matter of family tradition or they consider it to be a status symbol, but not to avoid parental responsibility. Parenting is a lifelong process of promoting and supporting a child from infancy to adulthood, whereas boarding schools only cover a limited period of time in a childs life.
While it’s easy to be impressed by professionals with fancy titles and schools with hundreds of years of history, at the end of the day, that’s all they are: titles and history. When it comes to the child, the ones who know him best are still his parents.