The act of parenting a child other than the biological parents is known as adoption. Adopted children face a multitude of issues when they realized that they were adopted. Although it may be difficult for some children to recall their situation or the process of their adoption. In circumstances where the adoption took place at early birth, there is a clear possibility that such a child won’t remember he/she was adopted. Hence, children adopted at an older age tend to establish emotional challenges later in the future.
Future problems developed by adopted children may include; grieving over the loss of the relationship with biological parents, loss of the family connection that would have existed with those parents, and most of them undergo emotional trauma at certain stages in their lives. Adoptive parents should try as much to understand the child and strategize on how to strengthen the bond.
In some cases, adopted children grow up to become bitter and violent as a result of their peer group’s negative attitude towards them, especially in school.
Hence, the thought and question of why they were given out for adoption will start gushing up in their mind. This scenario makes them get angry more easily and battle with rejection. In such cases, they may develop an emotional problem leading to a negative impact on their lives, which makes it difficult to associate and socialize with other children. Mental and emotional abuse affects a child’s confidence, strength to contribute to life, and freedom of association (Conner 10).
Paying more attention to such children so as not to transfer aggression to other children as a result of their emotional instability will be appropriate.
Some adopted children may develop guilt and grief with the belief that something must be wrong for their biological parent to have given them away for adoption. However, these thoughts are not comparable to the love and support the adoptive parents shower on them (Schwartz 31). According to Eric Erikson, adolescentsadolescents’ search for their identity might be a little difficult, because it can present some problems to the adoptee, especially if they have no genetic history of their biological parent (Schwartz 42). Also, adopted children may have difficulty mixing up or associating with people as a result of the loss of association with their biological parents.
In more observation, adopted children ofmay lose trust in their biological parents with the thought and feeling of being betrayed. According to scholar Donald Black, in the case of adoption, refusing a child of an important bond may damage the effort to create a companionship as well as a friendly relationship. This may result in an antisocial personality disorder in the children, hence can lead to loss of trust and insecurity. In so doing, it can lead them to easily get upset and difficult to accommodate. In another phase, some adopted children may have challenges with neglect, physical, and sexual abuse, which can lead to serious behavioral problems. Most of such victims might end up being sexually addicted and frequently experiencing emotional trauma. Zill in his writing up made a case that, an early trauma in a child can destabilize the brain that controls the mood and learning. Zill further stresses that adoption is a good development in the fact that it helps children for a better up bring than remempatheticaining in a bad home environment (Patricelli 15). Adoption can be a subject of controversy in the instances of a sibling relationship, as a result of the mixed raising of the adopted and biological children. Either of the children may be jealous and compete for attention from the parent. This may lead to a child having the feeling that others have developed a greater bond than they have with their parents.
Every adoptive parent should strategize on how to bond with the adopted child. Identifying the activities that they are interested in will be of advantage to their development and emotional state. The adoptive parents should also give the child opportunity to have some control over the family choices, so he/she could develop feelings of belonging. Furthermore, the adoptive parents should try to know the heritage and history about the adopted child’s home, to profound professional help whenever the needs arise. There are various ways to create a healthy attachment to a child, either a biological child or an adopted one. The parents should be empathetic and sensitiveminds. They should always be able to read their children’s mind and be more emotionally available.
Conclusively, an adopted child poses a higher risk of generating behavioral problems as a result of battling with the certainty of their adoption. The fact that a child was left in the care of a stranger by his/her real parents may make them become tensed up, abusive, and violent. It is common for them to grieve over loss of the relationship with their birth parents, and the loss of the family connection and they may undergo emotional trauma at certain stages in their lives. However, it will be appropriate for the adoptive parent to pay more attention to understanding the child and strategize on how to strengthen the bond between them. In a nutshell, the emotional and behavioral challenges faced by adopted children can be tackled withthe the help of a psychologist and behavior specialist.