Self—disclosures, which could be voluntary revealing of one’s personality or slips of the tongue which inevitably happens to the majority of us, are a regular part of everyday relationships The textbook suggests as the relationship between two people get stronger, the amount of disclosures between them take place more frequently. However, there are certain guidelines for facilitating and responding to self-disclosure, which are considering the motivation for the self-disclosure, considering the appropriateness of the self—disclosure, considering the disclosures of the other person and considering the possible burdens the self-disclosure might entail, When one considers the motivation for the self—disclosure, one should try to be ethical and moral about these motivations.
Although it’s always good to be honest and truthful, if you’re being honest and truthful, and giving disclosures to create a commotion or conflict, than the self- disclosures shouldn’t be given. Moreover, self»disclosures should be appropriate. Things you would state with your friends, family, and your romantic partner might not be the same things you would want to share with your teachers, professors, coworkers, and bosses.
There is a place and time for everything. Also, try to feel the mood of the conversation you’re having, and see if the person you’re communicating with is responding as you think he or she should, or if he or she is sharing self»disclosures as well.
If you notice the other person not really sharing about themselves, it might be good to take that as a sign that you’re overdoing it.
Last, but not least, one needs to consider the possible burdens self-disclosure might entail. Whenever I communicate with others, I usually follow these guidelines. However, I recall when I first started working and getting into the hotel industry I was still in my teenage years, and had the mentality of a teenager as well. Thus, I was always sharing personal things about myself to my coworkers which wasn’t professional, as well as necessary Long story short, I had to find out the hard way that there is an appropriate time and place for everything.