Family is a group of people whom you spend most of your life with. They see how you act under pressure and how easily you become angered, yet love each other despite their faults. Family is a very important part of the way a child grows, thinks, and behaves. One’s family, especially the parents, contributes in shaping their attitudes and minds. Family also helps to distinguish the differences between right and wrong and gives guidance to their family in making the right decisions.
Although this is the mere surface of family, most relationships within the family go much deeper. Family units learn to depend on each other, grow with each other, and share with each other to bring out the potential in everyone, so that it is possible for them to fulfill their dreams. Family is so important because it is not only one of the first means of socialization for a child but it stays with them until death.
The bond within the family is incredible, in most cases, because they encounter so many obstacles yet remain united. Family uses primarily three factors when raising a child, which are physical, emotional and spiritual factors. Each of these factors plays a significant role in a child’s life, preparing them for the independent world, and also showing them that they are loved and important. When dealing with physical factors shaping a child, there are several aspects that need to be taken into consideration. Abuse has severe negative effects on a child because that child may feel that love is shown through abuse and it would be very possible that they would either enter an abusive relationship or abuse others.
Although abuse is wrong, discipline is needed to shape a child’s behavior. Many people would debate whether or not spanking is appropriate or not, but to get a firm point across, spanking is necessary.
If a child were doing something wrong that could cause danger on themselves, the quickest way to get the point across that it is wrong, is by a soft spank. Although a spank can be very effective, impulsive moves could cause one to hit, not spank, their child. Being impulsive is a bad idea, the best way to discipline a child is openly. Reassuring family and children of protection causes them to feel safe and comfortable in their home. Raising a family in a safe environment is very important in shaping a child’s behavior. If a child were to grow up in an area that has a known tendency to steal, than that child would most likely grow up stealing. If a child were to grow up in an area that has a known tendency to be racist, then that child would most likely grow up making racist comments. Love is a large portion in shaping a child, but love alone will not do. Showing a child that they are loved will boost their self-esteem and cause them to show more love to others as well. Verbal abuse could do the same thing as a lack of love. This will bring about doubt into the mind of a child, whether or not they are loved. This will wear down their self-esteem, causing them to feel like everything they do is wrong. Admiration is important because it lets the child know that you care about what they do and that you are paying attention to them. Attention will feed the hunger that they have for your approval, so they are aware that you are concerned with their safety and only want what’s best.
Although this does not seem like that big of a deal, to a child who is just looking for love, it is. Compassion is necessary to create a bond with the child, so that child will learn to trust, understand and obey. Compassion will let the child know that parents are not big monsters, but people who are there to protect and love them. Discipline is a very tricky area because too much discipline will scar a child, but so will too little. If a child is disciplined too much, they will rebel against what their parents are asking of them, and cause them to think that their parent’s only reason for living is to discipline them. If a child is not disciplined enough, they will believe that they can get away with anything or what they are doing isn’t wrong. Also, if a child isn’t disciplined enough, a child might think that their parent’s do not care about their safety or for them at all. Individuality is very important when dealing with siblings. No comparisons should be made between the two such as “Why don’t you ever clean your room Dylan? Bobby’s room is clean all the time.” This can have long-term effects and possibly cause the neglected child to hold a grudge on their siblings. There are many different aspects related to spiritual factors such as morals, beliefs, values, priorities, the differences between good and bad and helping them to choose between the two.