“Speak when you are angry- and you will make the best speech you will ever regret” Dr. Laurence J. Peter How does the above quote relate to the use of language as a tool for expressing one’s emotion? There are many ways of expressing our emotions. We can do this by our face expressions, by our movements and acts, using our body language but the most powerful and common way is using the ordinary language. Ordinary language is the ability of people to communicate between them to share ideas, to make plans, and understand each other by using words.
But it is also a way of sharing feelings and expressing emotions. Behind each word there are many thoughts and feelings hidden. Each one of us through out his life has learnt almost all that words and become aware of the deep meaning and the hidden feelings of that words. This is the reason why when we grow up we become able not to talk passive but with sentimentalism. Therefore language is one of the best ways of expressive our emotions. “Speak when you are angry- and you will make the best speech you will ever regret”, is a quote of Dr.
Laurence J. Peter an educator and a hierarchiologist. From this quote we could see that our emotions are expressed by our speeches, words or otherwise that our words are effected by our emotions. Anger is a feeling that overcomes any other feeling of fear or depression, even though love. When you are angry according to Dr. Laurence J. Peter you can make the best speech because the only emotion coming out of that speech is anger, therefore your speech will be clear, and focusing only to the aim of it. This speech will have passion and zeal.
All of this anger will come out of the speech, will eventually enter people hearts when they heard the tone of your voice pronouncing heartlessly words loudly, clearly with no doubt and coming out from a hard heart. Then by leaving them recording to their minds each word they will be able to understand what your feelings are, when you speak to them. If your words are full of anger that brings on that they will be barbed words. As people are sensitive living things, they will be hurt psychologically by those words. Your words might damage their lives immeasurable.
Your words might sound to their ears forever and no excuse or apology can take them back. And when you finally discover this you will eventually regret about what you had said, you will feel ashamed of yourself because you let your anger to speak, instead of yourself. But if we change the concept and you are fell happiness instead of anger, then what you will give out will be totally different. The same speech, with the same point of view, might sound exactly different. What you will give out will be emotions of happiness and calmness.
The atmosphere will change colour becoming lighter, as your voice will be lighter and calmer, full of joy. Language consists of so many words, and you will find yourself many times, want it or not, showing emotions but shouting small words or telling phrases. For example when you are impressed or enthusiastic with something, you will say “wow”, when you are disgust you will say “yuk” or when you’re in pain you will say “outs”. There are infinite examples of phrases too, showing emotions. The most common one is “I love you”, expressing love.
Sometimes you might find yourself so depressed or full emotions; therefore you will need to expresses yourself in a way. The most common and effective way is to call a relative or a friend and talk to him. Or emotional people often become writers. They express themselves by writing their feelings on a paper. Then people reading those graven words can feel what the writer was feeling when he was witting the book. That are proves of how important is language for the expression of emotion. In some cases words can be misleading and expressing emotions that they don’t really exists.
This is also the job of an actor. To get into the spirit of a film and say what he has to, with an emotion so it can sound real. How emotions are expressed by language is a topic that anthropologists and sociolinguistics had spend time about it, but it is also a topic that we are getting through every day and we are researching it with our own way. Dr. Laurence J. Peter taught us by his phrase that we have to control our words and don’t let our emotions to build sentences that will destroy friendships or create misunderstandings.
Words been driven by bad emotions can kill positive feelings and this is the worst death a person can have. This bond between people’s emotions and language will never brake, and if it is controlled and used correctly can express all types of feelings with a beautiful way and draw smiles to people’s faces and hearts. References: A. http://en. wikipedia. org/wiki/Laurence_J. _Peter B. http://www. consistent-parenting-advice. com/raising-emotional-intelligence. html C. Cambridge University Press 0521641632 – Metaphor and Emotion: Language, Culture, and Body in Human Feeling Zoltan Kovecses