An overview of the principles underlying this work with parents. The principles underlying our work with parents is based upon Individual (Deadlier) Psychology developed by Alfred Adler. Humanistic or client-centered psychology underpins the relationship between the facilitator and the parent (our client). Individual Psychology Some of the core concepts of this theory are All behavior is goal directed which means that we behave in a certain way to meet specific goals. We are social beings, therefore our main goal is to belong.
In order to understand behavior we have to understand the effect of that behavior on others especially important is the parent- child relationship. Thus cooperation is one of the corner stones of the philosophy. People, including children, behave according to their own subjective view of reality, and so to understand others we need empathy, the ability to see things from their point of view. This is termed private logic, which is the unique conviction we have about life, self and others and is influenced by genetic, cultural and family factors.
The life style is formed through childhood experiences and involves the affective, cognitive and behavioral strategies we employ to reach out goal. Mutual respect is essential between people in a democracy and in a democratic family. Discipline is an essential part of parenting and self development. There is an emphasis on cognitive behavioral approaches to change, because if we choose our behavior to meet certain goals we can change that behavior if it no longer suits us.
Our philosophy Hereford is a very optimistic one.
Parenting skills based upon these concepts are mostly regarded as positive parenting or cooperative discipline and often described as an authoritative approach. They include such methods as using logical consequences recognizing goals of behavior introducing family meetings teaching problem solving skills emphasizing encouragement. It also includes communication skills such as active listening, empathy for others and recognizing own feelings.
The immunization skills are essential in the development of emotional intelligence. 2 Humanistic or person centered therapy The relationship between the facilitator and the parent in our work requires the core conditions for facilitative practice congruence (realness), acceptance and empathy. This is based upon Carl Rogers Humanistic Theory. In practice we use this approach to emphasis the relationship between ourselves and the individual client. Our work is based upon cooperation, support and empathy.
Congruence Perhaps the most basic of these essential attitudes is realness or genuineness. We need to be genuine, entering into a relationship with parents without presenting a front or a fade, thus we are much more likely to be effective. We need to be aware of our own feelings and communicate them if appropriate. We need to be honest with clients. When necessary and appropriate we can disclose aspects about ourselves to enable greater understanding and empathy. Acceptance This is about valuing the parent (our client),