Compare & Contrast: Guys vs. Girls (a. k. a The Ultimate Gender War) Through the journey of high school, it is very often common for one to acquire two different types of friendships, or in other words, a guy friend and a girl friend. One can argue that these two relationships have just as many similarities as they do differences, but in many cases, it’s the differences of these two polar friendships that make them an ideal mix for any person in need of some good lovin’ pals.
Whether it be a need for some tough love or a genuine hug and chocolate, this is when the differences of gender opposite friendships come into play.
Guys and gals differ in almost whichever way possible. From what they like to talk about, to how they feel about Oprah’s show comping to an end, or to how concerned they are with their appearance and demeanor, it’s quite apparent that if a girl was to approve and agree with one side of the coin, the guy is almost definitely likely to defend the opposite.
Ladies first. Female friends are always there when you need to talk, or when you just want to have some fun and go crazy. If one correctly follows the concrete-set stereotype employed by society, girls are your emotion go getters.
Break out the chocolate therapy and chick flicks, because if you’re in a ditch and seek some advice, this is your girl friend’s kryptonite.
Come to her with your problems and she’d be listening with all ears and an open heart, willing to do all that she can to make you smile again, even if this may require a few white lies once in a blue moon. Girls are also typically more stuck up than your average guy pal. In other terms, a girl’s tendency to overreact to minute situations leads to three results- drama; gossip, and cat fighting.
Movies and books throughout the world such as “Mean Girls” or Twilight, are perfect examples of how real life females can get. Not to say that they can’t be just as powerful as a loving friends, but if their button is pushed just a little too much, one better watch their back. However, with all negativity of female viciousness put aside, it is absolutely healthy to talk to a girl about what you are going through and vent till the cows come home. Despite their nasty cat women counterpart, there is no better option than your wonderful girlfriend to talk to, if what your looking for is a better end to your day.
Girls enjoy hugs more than anything, and will comfort you even if you’re a complete stranger. Guys on the other hand are a lot different from girls. They are the farthest from emotional barbie dolls, due to all the media hype for masculinity, and usually, more often than not, do most things just for the heck of it. Guys enjoy sports more than anything and appreciate a good sandwich when the see one. On a full stomach and clean clothes, guys can be one of the greatest supporters a friend could ever ask for. Guys tell it like it is, but deep down they are genuine, always looking out for their bud’s back.
One of the downfalls to a guy friendship however is that usually, males don’t like talking about “feelings”, and won’t understand completely if you try to talk to them about your personal problems. Also, because of their fear of drama and confusion, guys try to keep life as simple as they can get it, so don’t try to waste your time asking him to help you solve your next rubik’s cube based relationship with him. Things will just get ugly. Now although the differences between guy and girl friends are quite obvious and great in number, the similarities between them can be just quite as enticing.
Whether it means going to see a movie, going to the beach, or even just hanging around talking, they both will be glad to make the most of it and have some fun. Also, without even trying, guys and gals unintentionally look for the same in each other. Each gender needs the perfect blend of tender, love and care, just as much as they need a boost of super bowl night with the boys. With that being said, a world without guys would be screwed, and a world without girls would be even more screwed. And with that, the war between guy vs. irl friendships is one that will possibly never come to an agreement. However in order for any person, whether it be guy or gal, to successfully seek a healthy lifestyle with real world people involved, he must have friendships with both male and female friends, but more importantly he needs to find the perfect balance of the two. Of course, naturally, this balance is important in order to ensure that the “best of both worlds” is achieved from gaining the great qualities that each gender’s friendship has to offer.