FACULTY OF COGNITIVE SCIENCES AND HUMAN DEVELOPMENT
KMU 1013 HELPING RELATIONSHIPS
ASSIGNMENT 1: WORKSHOP ACTIVITIES KIT
NO NAME MATRIC H/P NO
1 MUHAMMAD HAFIZUDDIN BIN SHARDIZAMAN 47786 014-3977403
2 MOHD IZZUL AZRI BIN IDI 59705 011-51649904
3 FARAH AFIQAH BINTI AFFENDI 63969 017-8362396
4 NATELLA BINTI HASSAN 59754 011-51844678
5 NURUL ATIRA BINTI MOHD SABRI 57503 011-51707269
6 NURUL AIN BT ALI 57482 011-19296889
7 NUR SAKINAH BINTI ZULKURNAIN 63640 013-8630833
8 SITI SARAH BT NASIR 57962 014-8014385
9 SITI ROKIAH BT UDIN 57959 011-17946764
10 SITI NUUR DIYANNA BINTI ALIAS 59932 014-228174
KMU 1013 HELPING RELATIONSHIPS
SEM II, 2018/2019
(Mark Sheet/Rubric for Assignment 1)
WORKSHOP ACTIVITIES KIT – 20%
Group No: 2 Group Leader: Muhammad Hafizuddin bin Shardizam (47786)
Topic: The effect of divorce to children
Marks Awarded Marks
Introduction 2 Theories & Explanation 4 Discussion on the issues (theme & topic) 6 Tentative program and Workshop Activities Kit/Slide Presentation. 6 Format
Use correct spelling, grammar
Write logically, clearly & concisely
Appropriate & consistent referencing 2 Total 20 General Comments:
Lecturer Signature: Date:
LIST OF CONTENT
THEORIES RELATED TO THE FAMILY
DISCUSSION ON ISSUES RELATED TO FAMILY
TENTATIVE PROGRAMME 4
ACTIVITY 4: 17 – 18
18 – 19
POWERPOIN SLIDES PRESENTATION 22 – 26
4.0 REFFERENCES 27 – 28
Based on website entitle JKSP (2017), divorce means ending marriage either by a husband or by QADI. Every married couple will certainly want a happy and lasting marriage until the end of life. However, not all couples are able to defend their marriage and prefer to terminate their marriage with divorce. The case of divorce is not a new thing in our lives, but almost every day we are served with divorce cases and it seems to be commonplace in our daily lives.
According to Rani (2018), 2,932 divorce cases under the age of five years were recorded by the Federal Territory Islamic Religious Department from 2013 to 2017 for Muslims in the Federal Territory including Kuala Lumpur, Putrajaya and Labuan. Meanwhile, for non-Muslims there were 14,440 cases recorded in the same period based on the National Registration Department (NRD). In the last five years, the state with the highest number was Johor which was 2,860 cases followed by Kuala Lumpur with 2,721 cases and Selangor 1,858 cases.
The person who are most impressed by the consequences of divorce are children who are growing up. Where they are not mature enough to understand the circumstances that occur between their parents. Besides, they also had to grow up without a parent beside them. Unconsciously, this situation has a very deep impression on children who will ultimately cause children life to be damaged or destroyed.
There are many criminal cases involving teenagers who come from a broken family as a result of their parents’ divorce. They become wild, free to associate with anyone and some get involved with drug abuse. There are also those who suffer from mental disorders such as depression until some have committed suicide because they did not receive early treatment.
It turns out that divorce has a negative impact on our society, it is like a disease that should be treated before becoming more serious and damaging more teenagers in our society.
At the end of this program, participants are able to:
Have better understanding about important have a good family
The parental can be aware how the divorce effect on their children
Apply tips of care their family.
1.2 THEORIES RELATED TO THE FAMILY
1.2.1 Behaviourists Theory – John B. Watson
The theory of behaviorism is formally founded by John B. Watson in 1913 which by that time the view of behaviorism is similar to psychoanalytic and Gestalt movement in psychology. By the 21st Century, the field of behaviorism is thriving as it is about learning theory that focused on objectively observable behaviors and includes any independent activities of the minds. Behaviorism emphasizes the importance of the environment in shaping behavior as it strongly depends on the stimulus, the response and the relationship between these elements.
The focus is on observable behavior and the conditions through which individuals’ learn behavior, namely classical conditioning, operant conditioning and social learning theory. The application of behaviorism theory included:
The stimulus: the practices of problems
The response: apply the suit and correct solution to the problem
The learning: the repetition causes an individual to make changes
Therefore, the depression is the result of a person’s interaction with their environment. For example, classical conditioning proposes depression is learned through associating certain stimuli with negative emotional states. A depressed individual tends to express the uncommon behavior as response to the negative situation being face.
1.2.2Wendy Treynors Theory of Depression
Wendy Treynor is a social psychologist that defines depression as it happens when an individual is trapped in a social setting that rejects the self for a long term basis period (where one is devalued continuously), where the self-devaluation turns into self-rejection and then affects the social life as it turns into social rejection respectively.
The Wendy Treynors theory refers the self-rejection starts when the social rejection happen at first as a result fail to meet a standard in a group or community. The theory also mentions that the framework used where the depression is conceptualized as being the result of long term conflict in basis or internal and external side where this conflict correspond towards social rejection and self-rejection. The conflict of depression happen wherever there is a need for self-esteem (self-acceptance) and self-belonging) and (social acceptance) being unmet for a long period of time. In order to put a solution for this conflict to end, the mentioned above needs by get these needs met to fulfil.
This theory more suit the Major Depressive Disorder (MDD) that known as clinical depression where it impacts on an individual mood and behaviour as well as various physical functions such as sleep and appetite , lost interest in activities they once overjoyed and having trouble to perform daily activities. The cause of MDD as follows:
Combination of genes and stress affect brain chemistry as this could reduce the ability to maintain mood stability
Alcohol and drug abuse
Certain medical conditions: hypothyroidism
Particular types of steroid
1.2.3 Adlerian theory Or Psychoanalytic
This theory of psychology found by Alfred Alder 1870 in Vienna. Psychoanalytic theories emphasized is the important of loving relationship between children and their parents.
These theories suggest that there were three major personality mechanisms which is the id, ego and superego. The id contained the instinctual, unconscious desires especially sexual and aggressive with child of consciousness, developed out of the id. The ego tried to achieve the desires of the id while taking account of the reality of social convention and hence could delay immediate gratification in favor of long-term goals. Children would only develop a strong ego if they had a loving relationship with their parents. According to psychoanalytic theories, weak ego or weak superego will make broken family. Ego and superego will effect personality and lifestyle.
The inferiority will cause ones failure to face all challenges in life. This theories is about a human life that is not influenced by the past but human action is actually based on a life their aims. Through this theory, individuals can see their personality based on sequence within a family or group.
1.3 DISCUSSION ON THE ISSUES RELATED WITH TOPIC Divorce is one of the bad experience in a person life and there are many effect can happened because of divorce family, which is gives a negative effect that are seen more noticeable especially to the children than to the parents. For children, there are many circumstance that will impact on the behaviour and attitude of their kids, sometimes parents are forget what will happen with some of childhood pressure with the issues of divorce that their children will facing especially in today society. In other hand, some of parent did not aware how these kind of situation are possibly impact their children likes of feeling sad and angry when the children have a hard time when they need to understand and calm down when their parents are arguing and cannot find out why their parent are deciding to separate.
Furthermore, some of the parents will fight each other in front of their children, then from these fighting scene occurs between their parents, it can make the kids to react negatively and because of what they have seen from their parents they can follow and show their aggression towards other. Then, it also can make the children behaviour change such as become defiant towards their friend thus, can make their studies are dropping. According to Ford (2005) have mentioned that, divorce will make some of children suffer with the psychological problems due of they hard to overcome with their own feeling and will make them in a worse emotional.
Besides that, according to Ford (2004) have indicated, feelings of hopelessness also been one of the causes to take over the mind of children due of they dont know how to control or how to understand the situation. The children also have to dealing with their parents are divorce and left with them with a several of question because they are in the worse situation that they have never understand and experienced. As a parents, they are responsible to make their kids are not in the stress situation and answer every question that might arise from their children to make them better comprehending what is going on. As a conclusion, we know that divorce is a painful process for everyone who have experienced in these situation and it was not our desire. However as a parent, it is important to dealing with divorce as best as possible with help to make a less effect on a child and make them easy to get through, which is parents are needs to try their best to explain to their children why divorce are happen in their family and comforting the child as much as possible (Schor, 2004).
1.4 TENTATIVE PROGRAMME
8.00 a.m. – 8.30 a.m. Registration
8.30 a.m. 9.05 a.m. Activity 1: Ice breaking: Knowing you, knowing me
9.05 a.m. 11.05 a.m. Activity 2: Talk show How to build happy family
11.05 a.m. 11.20 a.m. Breakfast
11.20 a.m. 12.20 p.m. Activity 3: Tell Me A Secret
12.20 p.m. 2.30 p.m. Break / Lunch
2.30 p.m. – 3.30 p.m. Activity 4: Fantasy of success
3.30 p.m. 4.05 p.m. Solat Asar & Self Reflection
4.05 p.m. 4.35 p.m. Closing Ceremony
4.35 p.m. Program End
Activity 1: Ice breaking: Knowing you, knowing me
To encourage the participant to become more familiar with their peers.
To help the participants to speak, build their confident and become active participants in the learning process.
3. To introduce meeting participants to one another in an informal and fun way.
Each participant is asked to write a nickname, objects or valuable things in their lives and dreams they want to achieve.
After that, each participant must find another participant near them.
Then they are asked to exchange their paper and should be introduced themselves to each other.
After the two of them know each other then they will be asked to introduce their partners to other participants referring to what was written on their friend’s paper.
The participants can create bonds among them which is exchanging information to foster trust and connection. Thus as a result, the participants will feel more comfortable and open minded during activity.
To assists a building community between participants to know one another better and also positively will impact overall participation in the activities
This activity will provide with a quick assessment of the group, gauging how much they know about their peers, how comfortable they are in group and what their background, talent and expertise.
Activity 2: Talk How to build happy Family
Going through the process of divorce is a challenging life transition for both parents and children. During their parents divorce, children often feel a wide variety of conflicting emotions. It is very important for parents to provide their children with understanding and support. Besides that, every person needs to be part of a family, however it is constructed and whatever it consists of. A family may consist of all or any of the following: parents, sibling, grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, adopted or fostered members, close friends, guardians/carers and more. Doing your bit to help keep the family happy just one part of the bigger whole of having a family stay together.
Talk to your family members at the end of the day.
It is very important that you let them know about your life so that they can understand you, congratulate or empathize with you and generally know whats going on in your life. In turn, it is equally important that you know about their lives too, so that they feel understood, supported and can be reassured that they are not alone.
Take interest in the interest of each of your family members.
Learn what they love doing and ask questions about it. Ask them how heir hobby, their interest or their work is going. Be an active listener when they tell you and learn what you can.
Show genuine concern about your family members.
Do not keep your feeling bottled up. If you love them, then tell them that you love them. Of you care about them, tell them this. Go out of your way to remind each family member what glues you all together: love, care and support.
Be a good listener.
Do not always shower your family members with advice; just hear them out at times. That is all they need.
Try small gestures to help.
Even the smallest things count. With a simple text or a brief phone call, you can make someones day. Just make sure you leave a positive message that will leave them feeling happy. When you know that someone is going through a hard time, call text and be with them at their time of need like you would like them to do for you.
Activity 3: Tell Me A Secret
To tighten the bond between the parents and their children
To reduce the divorce problems between parents
The participants can share their own problems easily with face-to-face method
The participants will be given one paper each. They will be asked to write their problems or worries on that paper.
The facilitator will act to share their own opinion and give suggestions to solve and prevent the problems from happened.
This activity was held to teach each of the participants to be open minded and accept their own weaknesses so that they can improve it to be a better person in the future.
The participants can share their opinions and problems easily because they are comfortable with the facilitators.
The participants do not have to hide their problems themselves as the problem will lead them to another serious problems such as depression.
The facilitators can give useful and meaningful suggestions or ways on how to deal with the problems to the participants. So, the participants can apply the methods to solve their problems and prevent the divorce problems between parents issues from happening.
Activity 4: Fantasy Success
In order for participants to improve their self-concept
So that participants can enjoy the meaning and feelings and successes
The facilitator instructs all participants to close their eyes, pull and breathe (several times). Try to calm down.
Imagine one day you will be very happy throughout your life. Concentrate on one of the successes of that time.
Try to recall the success. Where did that happen? Are you achieving it alone or with the help of others? Do you plan to achieve it or it happens spontaneously.
Now regain your consciousness
Ask the participants to share the success story of their past.
Every human being who wants to succeed in the world and hereafter.
Each individual needs to be confident they will succeed if they try to stumble.
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